Hero’s Journey series continued part 3/4 as printed in #Life365 news papers.
“He felt uneasy whenever he went into crowded places, it just felt horrible to him. He knew it was stupid, still he couldn’t find a way to shake it off. When things started getting worse, he thought of approaching a psychologist but was scared even talking to one. He isolated himself, creating further problems.”
Everything we do is to feel certain emotions that we want, whether it is by getting anything, making money, being in a relationship, or even helping people. What you want is completely fair, you can work and find ways. You don’t just feel emotions, you create them as well.
How do you create it? By thinking and by this power to think create meanings, much of which is automated once repeated enough times. Many times, it’s out of awareness, so its just feelings that are created instantly like phobias. Emotions we create are for our protection and for helping us even the unwanted ones, such as if a tiger suddenly comes in front of you, you feel instant fear, adrenaline will rush through your body and you will run as you have never before. You wouldn’t think as to what to do? So you need fear but only in the right context. Having other fears doesn’t make much sense, as we create them through own thinking which sometimes we call logic or experience.
Many people feel bad when they get angry and say something which they regret, thus creating guilt about anger, then they feel hopeless as if stuck, or worst they find or create various reasons. So a feeling about a feeling, both of which are unwanted. The best way of stopping the habitual patterns, which you think you have no control over, is to just seek the positive intent of the emotion, if anger is the emotion, seek the positive intent when you are feeling it, because if its repeating, whether it is to make someone understand something, or as a coping mechanism. I don’t believe in just getting knowledge but also practising the techniques, here’s a simple and powerful exercise/technique, :
1. First accept the emotion, say thanks to your power. Yeah, it sounds cheesy, but do it.
2. Whenever you have that emotion, just feel it completely and let go, do not resist it. Anything you resist, persists.
3. Ask yourself, what is it that i want by having this feeling?
4. After you get the answer if you are honest and open, communicate to yourself through writing whatever it is. If its depression, seek permission of yourself to let go of the past, as its over, find ways to do the things you really want. If its anger, communicate it though healthy ways to the person, and let go. If its fear, communicate that it’s ok to have fears and desensitize yourself by facing them.
Its ok to feel sad, fearful, angry, frustrated, worried ,but only for sometime till the message and the way is clear to you and that you take the action. Own your power to create emotions. It’s not difficult, it’s just a matter of practice.
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