Values, Beliefs and Strategies
(this is strictly from my perspective, so copywrite applied, haha)
Values in NLP are categorised as Criteria,
In simple terms, Values means what is important to you, the much asked question what do you value? As in what’s important to you.
in many situations, what is important to you more, which leads us to our values hierarchy, and to making a choice.
Beliefs are meanings processes, and they serve as a broad system to Values, if they are being meet or not, if they are not being meet and are completely out of touch with your values, everyday living would be difficult, leading to a unfit mind, causing feelings of intense unhappiness, rage or nervousness. Its not the World causing you sufferings, its your own beliefs, your own meanings and expectations about what your experiences mean and what do you expect now.
Beliefs in themselves can well serve your values, or they can cause the opposite if they are inaccurate, without being aware of what’s wrong.
Belief or Belief Systems are there put in place by ourselves without knowing consciously.
The Value of Security can be accomplished by strengthening yourself, gaining skills, or by attacking others, these are the attitudes and behaviors that results from the belief system. It can be gained through self dependence or by being dependent on others.
If the belief to attain this value is to be dependent on others which is based on other belief of low self worth, which again is based on other beliefs, you can see a whole system which is flawed.
Now, to loosen the grip of the higher unresourceful beliefs, knowing your values is the key, then setting up a system of support beliefs through actions and practice,
To know your values, ask yourself quality questions,
What is most important to me?
What is unimportant to me?
What can I ignore?
What I cannot ignore?
What is most important thing about my work, family, relationship, life?
My top 3 are : Excellence, making a difference, love.
So if excellence is an higher level value to me, and the underlying dysfunctional belief is “if this(any outcome) is not met then I don’t have excellence”, from this belief it would be very difficult to achieve the value of excellence, which is a process or an act or an performance attained through practice.
So without taking actions because of the fear of “failure” how can there be excellence??, a bad loop
The way out is a new belief that could be adopted and practiced, perhaps the NLP presuppositions “There is no failure, there is only feedback”, a generative belief.
Ask quality questions about these and see for yourself , WHAT EXACTLY YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF, FROM YOURSELF, BY YOURSELF, ARE YOUR BELIEFS SUPPORTING YOUR VALUES? If not then you know what to do.
See beliefs are there to support our wants, desires, goals, purpose ie whats most important to us.
Dehypnotise yourself from unresourceful beliefs.
WORK ON IT! PRACTICE, THATS THE ONLY WAY!
Values list( there are more, this is just brief list)
being the best
ease with uncertainty
enthusiasm/ positive attitude
making a difference
well-being (physical/emotional/ mental/ spiritual),
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