The Generative Change is based on the NLP presuppositions. Presuppositions are the beliefs/frames or in simple terms the underlying philosophy of the model and is essential for one to fully appreciate its working.
NLP presuppositions like “There is no such thing as failure, there is only feedback”, “People are not their behaviors”, “Map is not the territory”, help us understand the world within and the world outside, beliefs like these are powerful enough to change ones life in many ways.
I remember the time when a old building in front of my house was being torn down to make a new one, the old one had become unlivable and useless. I saw traditional construction workers breaking the walls and slabs. One particular day, a group of three strong men were removing a slab with their heavy hammers, in a rhythm each one of them hit the same particular part of the slab one by one for many minutes, I saw that nothings was happening, the slab was strong and I thought they better blow it off with dynamite. But after some time the slab came down. Each time they struck the slab, it had micro fractures and eventually it fell.
Beliefs are termed as the “meanings”, we as humans are meaning makers, such as “Life is Difficult, Unfair” “I can’t do that because I might fail and who likes to fail? “, and rather deep unconscious beliefs which were repeated such as” Having lots of money, cars, beautiful spouse, security, social admiration and approval of family is equal to being Happy, Feeling good about oneself, Feeling Fulfilled”.
There are a lot of ways that such limiting beliefs can be changed, updated so that they support what you want to do, by being and thus having what you want.
Rather than giving you a quick fix, I welcome you to ask yourself some quality questions to yourself, and answer them out loud(I know what will people think, right?) or write them down.
What’s the quality of this belief?
How does this particular belief limit me?
Does it help me in some way?
Is this belief made by myself or I got this from others?
What are the disadvantages in having this belief?
If I were to have a better one, what would that be?
Am I willing fully to change or update in some way?
Ask someone who had gone through the same challenge and succeeded, ask them about what they did, and what beliefs they formed which helped.
Practice questioning your beliefs on a regular basis, every time they limit you, and you see the power of that belief to control you gets weaker and weaker.
Represent to yourself how a new belief would help you in the context, visualise it. See it especially in the situation, even if doesn’t change anything initially, even if you feel it won’t change, remember the story of the construction workers as a frame to this new belief, and practice.
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